The holiday dinner table can be a beautiful place… until somebody brings up politics, old relationships, money, or “Who made this dry dressing?” Every family has personalities that don’t always mix like cocoa and marshmallows. But keeping the peace isn’t impossible — it just takes intention, boundaries, and humor.

Why Family Drama Happens

Holidays bring people together who may not agree, may not talk often, or may still be holding onto old emotional receipts. Mix in stress, memories, and expectations — and boom, tension like a Thanksgiving turkey in the oven.

5 Real-Life Holiday Drama Examples

1. The “so when are you getting married?” interrogators turning a peaceful dinner into a relationship press conference.
   
   

2. The cousin who always arrives late but leaves with the biggest to-go plate.
   
   

3. The uncle who wants to debate politics like it’s a championship match.
   
   

4. The sibling rivalry showdown — who Mama loves more, who cooks better, who’s more successful.
   
   

5. The ‘food critic’ relative who has something to say about every dish but contributes nothing.
   
   

How to Keep the Peace

• Set boundaries early (“We’re keeping this dinner politics-free today!”).
  
  

• Change the subject with grace: “So anyway… who’s traveling for New Year’s?”
  
  

• Take breaks (a short walk can reset everybody’s mood).
  
  

• Invite help — people are less dramatic when they’re busy.
  
  

• Celebrate differences instead of arguing them.
  
  

3 Helpful Resources

• “Set Boundaries, Find Peace” by Nedra Tawwab
  
  

• The Gottman Institute — Communication Tools
  
  

• Therapy for Black Girls Podcast — Holiday Stress Episodes